“the cis male urge” “totally cis” “still cis btw” girl u can be a girl it’s ok

egg culture has stopped so many trans girls from coming out and being fully comfortable its fucked

RE: https://yearning.gay/objects/7414e648-cc1e-496d-99e8-d14f64788a7e

@ellie@yearning.gay let people enjoy things imo. it's a meme

@ellie@yearning.gay egg culture is also not a real thing

@ellie@yearning.gay it's giving transmed. like let people enjoy things and come out when they feel like it!

@tauon idk i always teetered on “i think im trans” but never actually realized i was trans cuz the whole “this is a cis thing” joke became so normalized i actually believed it . my whole point is that the whole “totally cis” thing stops and discourages ppl from coming out when they want to 😭

@tauon also comparing disliking a joke that negatively effects how ppl think abt their own gender to Fucking Transmedicalism is crazy

@tauon@possum.city @ellie@yearning.gay it is absolutely real.. so many people say to me things like "give it a year" "yeah right youre totally cis" and think its funny or they am helping me realize something.
it is just misgendering, and pushes actual trans people more into the closet, and for cis people like me it just makes trans community look awful.
i learned transphobia from egg culture, thinking all trans people want to force me to be trans. it took a long time to find that was a minority.

@ellie this is so real i didnt come to terms with myself for years bc of that shit

@dispencer @tauon this is exactly what happened to me , to some of my partners , to some of my friends . egg culture is real and is harmful !!

@ellie@yearning.gay @tauon@possum.city trans people experience others trying to force wrong gender on them, and some few decide not to learn better

@dispencer @tauon @ellie also like . egg culture has more in common with transmedicalism than not . transmeds say shit like "that doesnt make u trans" the same way people are like "still cis tho." they can both be used as ways to dismiss and exclude other people and i think its safe to say both suck lol ..

@ellie @dispencer @tauon i thought egg culture was about scrambled or fried

@ellie@yearning.gay @tauon@possum.city i'm guessing it's because the culture and the people involved in it are trying to form a community when the thing is supposed to be temporary? like people are going to realize they're trans eventually

@tapesinside@floofy.city @ellie@yearning.gay that's literally why they do it? that's why i hate posts like this, you're trying to take away something that someone actually experienced just because it doesn't fit into your view of a trans person (from birth or whatever)

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@tauon@possum.city @ellie@yearning.gay like my view? are you /gen or /s

@tauon @tapesinside my post was made because of the experience me and a lot of my friends have had . im not trying to control what anyone jokes abt and stuff im just expressing my opinion that i think “totally cis tho” jokes can hurt trans ppl and can be harmful like they were to me , to my friends , to the many ppl agreeing with me , etc

i understand that they’re supposed to be lighthearted jokes and stuff and theres nothing inherently wrong w em but i wld doomscroll egg irl at age 14 convincing myself that i’m not trans . i’m “still cis tho !!!” and all that . and i know for a fact that many other trans people have had this experience

transmedicalism is an active belief that ppl need to meet a certain criteria to be trans and it’s directly transphobic !!! what i’m saying is that i think egg jokes are directly harmful to trans people and complicates the stage of figuring out who u are significantly . i do not see how either of these are at all related

@tauon @ellie @tapesinside no ones saying you have to have known since birth or whatever lmao

the egg shit makes it hard for young trans people to figure it out bc of the whole "still cis tho" thing, and cis people get harassed bc of people thinking they have to crack their egg or some shit. its just weird and annoying all around

@tauon @tapesinside i am not at all saying ppl who’ve experienced this don’t “fit into my view of a trans person” ??? i am somoene who experienced this !!

@stupidpuppy @tapesinside @tauon exactly … ics ppl get called “Eggs” and misgendered and trans ppl have a significantly more complicated and harder time figuring out there identity . it’s a lose - lose it’s fucked

@stupidpuppy@linfan.moe @tauon@possum.city @ellie@yearning.gay as cis i would get "egg vibes" comments on twitter or people would straight up think i'm a girl and it was so confusing

it gave me the idea i could be but i have no idea, since gender's a mess. i hate my body but becoming a girl isn't on my "wanna do" list

@tapesinside @tauon @ellie yea exactly ... anyone that questions their gender at all becomes some puzzle to solve , while questioning trans people are led to believe that everything they think / do is what every cis person goes thru . its all toxic

@ellie@yearning.gay the cis male urge to be called she/her

@tauon @ellie Not entirely. It's a joke about how some people have an issue like this.

@jackemled@furry.engineer idk i can see how that is but like. idk it just feels like forcing an identity on someone who isn't ready for that yet

@tauon @ellie It definitely is. People thinking "I MUST be the one to crack your egg & add you to my 'eggs cracked' counter" is something I have seen & it's a small part of why I pretend to be extra masculine off of fediverse, so people that would see me as "man" think nothing is "wrong" & also those egg cracking obsessed people leave me alone too. It feels awful, but it's better to only have people call me a man than to have more than one wrong answer said to me constantly. (I only like wrong answers about my gender when they're out of confusion, because I'm confused about it too.)

@jackemled@furry.engineer hey please can you stop commenting on this. this conflict is over already and you're just making it worse by being equally as confusing as everyone else

@tauon YES
That's the problem!!! No one should do that! Transphobes don't get to do it & "egg crackers" don't get to do it either because that's just as bad.

@jackemled@furry.engineer huh? that's literally why i can't understand what you're saying, you're saying one thing and then another